Intimate Relationships With Mental Illness – The Most Important Pillar
When people ask me what is the most important aspect in your recovery, I tend to tell them that it is my relationships with my soul mate – my wife. For she is the one that support my way, most of my recent years as a sufferer.
Unfortunately, most of the sufferers I know are single. The reasons for that are not always similar, but the fact is that most of the consumers find themselves alone without someone to share they’re life with.
From my point of view, the most crucial aspect of getting well when having a mental disorder is to find your mate. A boy or a girl friend helps you confront with your mental illness problems. She supports you and plays a row of someone that shares your deepest feelings through your coping.
Getting a soul mate shouldn’t be too difficult. Today there are ways to get to know new mates by countless ways such as matching sites on the internet, consumers clubs and parties, through mutual friends and so on.
Finding your soul mate is a crucial duty if you want to get well with your illness. She has to be comfortable, sharing, the one person you can really trust and depend on with your most intimate thoughts. She has to be your friend, and you should support each other in difficult times as in normal times.
If you get to the conclusion that your relationships with your soul mate are not healthy for your mental health, may be you should get to the conclusion that they are not for you and you should go on and find someone else to fulfill this job. Above all, don’t get despair for not finding the one.
There is an ancient say – There is a cap for every pot. So don’t fall into despair and keep trying to find your soul mate.
December 2nd, 2008 at 2:10 pm
Dear Sirs,
I thought I found my soulmate in Eliat , Isreal. I became pregant by him and had a son. But he was very intolerant of my boughts with psychotic illness. He would critize me and tell me not to take any medication . I went cold turkey off meds several times because of him . I realize this cold turkey was giving me return to the hospital. I feel I still love him but we´ve been separated about 4 years and I hav´nt seen him in that time . My dilema is whether I should return to Israel to try and pick up the peices or to start with another relationship .
December 2nd, 2008 at 3:03 pm
Hello Edith,
I think that you should try and forget that person even though he is the father of your children. Sometimes in life we should put our past behind us and continue with our lives. When time comes in the future, tell the story to your child. What he would done with it would be his won choice…
Ronen
December 7th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
Ronen is right, just try to forget about him, don’t let him or anything about him eat you up as a person, keep yourself busy, and smile once in a while it would really help…
About the relationship topic, yeah its really hard doing your best to explain yourself to your partner sometimes paranoia comes in and gets worse… But I really believe that theres really someone out there for you… *sigh*